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“You do not need a parachute to skydive. You only need a parachute to skydive twice.” ~Author Unknown

For this, our first child, we don’t need a parachute. I know we have so many parachutes (our friends and family, whether down the street or across the country that are only a phone call away) but I want us to take that leap, together. 

On my birthday recently, Patrick and I took a literal jump out of an airplane. I’ve always wanted to go skydiving and he surprised me with it as a gift. It was such an awe-inspiring experience. I know parenthood will be an experience that’s even better. There are so many firsts with a new baby; smiles, giggles, rolling over, words and even worries about poop frequency. I know we’ll document all of these to the point people will be tired of the pictures and “new news,” but I know we’ll be great at it.

We’re ready to take this jump, expand our family and learn to grow as parents and people. To jump onto a ride that has no instruction book.

I pray you’ll bless us with the chance to take this jump. We don’t need a parachute, but we’ll be the best parachute we can possibly be for your and our baby. Much like we were strapped onto someone more knowledgeable than us about skydiving, I know we can be tandem instructors to a baby in the game of life. 

 

x D

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"Dear Prospective Birth Mother" ...from Patrick's Dad & Step-Mother

Dear Prospective Birth Mother,

We are Patrick’s father and step-mother.  

Our fear is that you will not seriously consider a same-sex couple for adoption of your child.  We’d like to tell you why this would be a mistake.  

Patrick and Dan have a steady work history, and will be able to provide for the needs of your child.  They have a strong Christian faith, and a very strong circle of friends and family that will provide support for their child.  Watching Patrick and Dan together, we have seen a strong commitment for each other as a couple, and their love has grown stronger with time.  They have recently taken on the role as God Parents for the children of a friend, and this has seemed to bring out the parental desire even stronger.  

We would urge you to allow these wonderful men to provide the love, security and spiritual base that every parent wants for their child.  We cannot think of two more perfect individuals to raise your child in a loving, caring environment. 

God bless you and your child.

Tom & Lysa

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Eggs.

Parenthood. A concept so foreign yet familiar to me. Sometimes I wonder "What am I thinking?! Am I really ready to be a parent?" And then I look down at the faces of our Godsons Ethan & Skyler and I am overwhelmed with love and awe. I get excited wondering what they will be like when they grow up. What will they look like when their eyes and hair become their permanent color? Will they be soft spoken and artistic or outspoken and adventurous?  I think about all the things I want to teach them and places I want to show them. There's our six month old niece Addison, who looks at me with wide eyed wonder. I can't wait to hear what her voice sounds like, what new nonsense words she will teach me as she learns to speak on her own. I think about our nephew James, toddling around, making up a universe of his own and inviting me to come and play. Then there's Michelle, our oldest niece, who is becoming a beautiful young woman. It's been a mind blowing ride watching her grow in to an athletic, smart, witty person with more spunk and ambition then most of the other kids her age.

This is a ride I want to take. A ride I have never been more sure of and more ready to take. I have the best partner I could ask for to join me on the journey and I can't wait to meet the baby that will make it all worth taking.

All of these thoughts whirling in my head, I'm left thinking about this quote from one of my favorite authors:

"It may be hard for an egg to turn into a bird: it would be a jolly sight harder for it to learn to fly while remaining an egg. We are like eggs at present. And you cannot go on indefinitely being just an ordinary, decent egg. We must be hatched or go bad." 

-C. S. Lewis

Fitting, as eggs are traditionally thought of as a symbol of rebirth. Of beginnings. 

x P

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"Dear Birth Mom & Family" ...from Daniel's Mom

Dear Birth Mom & Family,

You don’t know what it means to Daniel & Patrick if you would consider the two of them as your child’s adoptive parents! And I would be the happiest Nanny around for he/she would be my first grandbaby. Daniel is my oldest son and honestly there was a time I thought that he would never be able to give me a son-in-law, who I love with all my heart, but that happened. Now he is telling me I can be a Grandma too!! But only if someone out there will trust in our family to care for and raise your child. What a blessing it would be!!

 

x Ruth (Daniel’s Mom)

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"Dear Birthmom"...from Patrick's Mom

Dear Birthmom,

When the time comes you will want the best for your baby; loving parents and a stable home and family for your little one. Patrick and Dan are opening their hearts in hopes of being able to share their life with a child they will promise to raise and cherish. They have a supportive family and circle of devoted friends with extended families many of whom attend the same church. Their faith is strong, their devotion true and they are ready to assume the responsibility of parenthood. As family we are praying they will be honored by a loving Birthmom willing to make that dream a reality. Bless you as you make a life decision for your baby. We are a very open family and love with all our hearts. 

 

x Sue (Patrick's mom)

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"A baby is born with a need to be loved - and never outgrows it." ~ Frank A. Clark

Love. It’s all about love.

As Patrick and I began to seriously consider adoption I kept coming back to one thing: love. I know that we love each other. I know we love our families and friends. I know we love our faith and our God. But perhaps most importantly; I know it’s time for us to share that love with the newest member of our family, our little girl or boy. When our twin godsons were born a few weeks ago I saw the immediate click, that immediate love, in both Adam and Shawn. The love was instantaneous and overflowing. Perhaps it’s because we’re now on this journey, perhaps it’s because I’m a little older (and hopefully a little wiser), or perhaps it’s because I haven’t been there for a baby’s birth in many years but that love was so fast, so instinctual, so thoughtless. I know we’re ready to share that love. I hope you’ll give us that chance to share our love.

 

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x D

 

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"The only impossible journey is the one you never begin."

Let's start at the very beginning, a very good place to start...

Daniel and I have been dreaming of becoming parents since either our second or third date. One of the first things Daniel ever said to me was "Just marry me already..." Shortly thereafter, it was "How do you feel about kids?". We have spent the six years of our relationship wondering what it would be like. Could we even make it a reality? Just a couple of years ago, we could never have imagined that we could be married, much less have the opportunity to welcome a child into our lives. It's surreal to be arriving at this moment: the first steps of what will be the most challenging journey of our lives. Our hope is that our child is out there waiting for us to find them. That God will lead us, our family and friends will support us, and that you will join us. This is going to be an exciting trek. So, let's put on our boots and start walking.

 

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x P

 

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