Did you know that Mother’s Day holiday was founded in West Virginia? St Andrew’s Methodist Church in Grafton, WV (about 45 minutes from where I grew up) hosted the memorial event by Anna Jarvis to honor her mother Ann Reeves Jarvis in 1908. Anna campaigned for years to make a national holiday but after being rejected by Congress that same year she worked state-by-state and by 1911 every state was holding some version of the holiday. In 1914 President Woodrow Wilson signed a Proclamation establishing the second Sunday in May as “Mother’s Day” as a National Holiday to honor mothers.
Being raised by a single mother had a profound impact on my outlook on life. My Mom showed me what courage, sacrifice, sheer force of will, and love could accomplish when you have no other choice. Patrick and I now consider ourselves lucky to have five wonderful women we call Mom (or Step-Mom or Bonus-Mom). Let me explain:
Ruth (Daniel’s Mom): offers unwavering support and encouragement as we proceed down this adoption path. Being the force behind the adoption of his little sister she knows the ins-and-outs of the so many requirements set forth by the State. This being her first grandchild, it’s easy to understand her eagerness.
Sue (Patrick’s Mom): witnessed first-hand the work his Aunt Kristi went through to adopt her two sweet girls. Having retired completely several years ago and living quite close to all of her current grandchildren she’s what I’d term a “Professional Grandmom.” She loves taking them to her cousin’s farm, teaching them arts and crafts and attending all of their school events.
Lysa (Patrick’s Step-Mom): Nana as she’s affectionately known also loves to attend the school events and host any and all of the kids/grandkids for sleepovers anytime we can make it happen.
Terry (Bonus Mom, our best friend Adam’s Mom) & Kathy (Bonus Mom, our best friend Shawn’s Mom): Terry and Kathy have graciously and lovingly welcomed us into their families over the years. We always know where we’ll be spending a holiday when we can’t make it our respective hometowns. In fact, this Mother’s Day we’ll be spending the day with them at Terry’s house for a family cookout.
We hope that one day soon we can introduce our child to these wonderful women they’ll be able to call Grandma.
As Patrick and I are completely agreeable to open adoption, we would also love to send the birthmother of our child a Mother’s Day update letter every year to let her know how this wonderful child entrusted to us is growing and thriving.
Happy Mother's Day to every Mother everywhere!!